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Senior Friend Finder? Recipes, gardening, , grandkids, - spouse, what state and where we live, past vacations, weather today versus yesterday, the present health status and what is scheduled with the doctor, projects around the house, the incredible new pot and pan set that everyone should be aware of, Covid restrictions and feeling more comfortable ordering grocery food for delivery, what programs do you watch on television?, is your computer an HP computer?, how about phone apps and what kind of phone and phone plan to you have, which are your most favorite, do your feet hurt after a full day? Am I on [answer is a definitive “No” by the way with no intent to share in there] Yes, yes, yes…. I agree that to a certain degree some of the above will and should be in probably every shared message from day-to-day. However, is that the complete list? [yeah, I know I am skipping over a lot of others that could be listed, however my point is…. are the above ALL THAT WE can and will discuss in SFF….is this ALL that Seniors are concerned with?] I also take into account that a number of ladies who I write to and those that respond to my profile are looking only for some degree of engagement of discourse? But? Where is that discourse if they choose to inherently say "Hi" and the virtual "Bye" seemingly in the same breath? Of course I am NOT aware of the numbers in "here" who are NOT looking for other than a pastime to jump in SFF....look, reply when they feel the urge, then leave. I can pay more attention to their profiles that state their attachment...married, widowed, single and the like. However, should that matter in a site that promotes that of Senior-aged Friends seeking other Seniors? I shake my head as I am still confused with it all and I have been a member now for what?...maybe a month. Yeah, I know.... give it some more time? Time will heal all? Let me get back to the messages received for a wee bit..... I take it that the too-few things that I/we covered in those first few very short exchanged messages were enough to make that Senior Friend connection a success. All is good…time to move on? Let’s mention the above “things.” I really, really believe that I have read all of the above, and then some, in the form of a joke I received about a year ago from my female cousin who resides in Florida. It seems like within this site, all of my fears about aging have come to roost! Ya got me runnin’ scared! Has most of the female to male attraction issues been supplanted by day-to-day routine life now? Is anyone a romantic anymore and feeling that their life is more than a “glass half-full,” that it is in fact “spilling over?” Is the concept that “some of the best times of my life will happen now” obsolete? It is my contention that nothing should be “dead and buried” until it’s rightful time to be. Gosh! I am understandably perplexed here! I need to look again for the name of the site I am in right now. Looks like I am in a website called Senior Friend Finder. Is that correct? I guess I expected something else that older Seniors were still interested and involved in? My experiences in SFF so far are this: yes, a few nicely written and exchanged messages go back and forth at the start. Barely a few of these messages from the ladies are longer that a few sentences in length. Then, IF….IF I even obtain a response from my initial communications, the same occurs, a few sentences in length and again saying very in content. Same when a lady messages me, tis but a few shared messages back and forth saying “Hi, how are you?” and a few other introductory things. Then…POOF! Very few are going much past the introductions???? Yowza!!!! Do I have the wrong site? Can it be that this is the “norm” for older ladies and gents above 60? I know and expect that ALL OF THE ABOVE routine daily life stuff are part and parcel to the “getting to know someone” aspect of a new friendship. I expect that to a certain extent. Once the weather is discussed and where we both are living now and for how long….. is that all there is to it? Is the friendship completed and thus the need then to “move on?” If there is a working handbook that you can point to for navigating through this for success? If so, please suggest it. However, if someone knows the answer to what about the short-lived aspects of these new connections in here? Is life that fickle now? Is the “grass is greener” concept in play for most seniors in SFF? Is the overriding mindset amongst the older set that the very next contact will be “the one?” Can anyone suggest a website that is populated with older ladies that really, really want to be friends and meet? I am all ears! Welllll being honest, that is not the case. But, maybe that subject is unacceptable to discuss in "here." I will have to check in Barnes & Nobel tomorrow in the physics area. I seem to recall a law of electrostatics that must have been removed.... "opposites attract." That used to pertain to men and women? I joined SFF not to disprove the law...no, I desired to prove it's merit. My add on 25 February as I come in here again...... I suspected that the above would get some "flack" from people. Not flack pertaining to my specific results in "here" but more to reinforce the fact that the site is called Senior Friend Finder and that can mean a non gender liking to come in "here" to just "be a friend." Yes, I know that...... everyone can and does use this site to be what they desire it to be. Perchance for two ladies to meet often and share recipes, book choices, parenting tips, whatever. Be the communications male to male, male to female, female to male....whatever. Yes, I am very much aware of the possibilities that could evolve from being in "here." My history in here though is showing that once the connections are made, they are not given the time and effort to survive and prosper. I would hope that I can be involved with some "friendships" that more than a few exchanged communications. To give the friendship a chance. |
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There actually is a site called Friend Finder and I heard there was even FB page. Perhaps some here experienced “once bitten twice shy”?
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Hello there Octagon.... Thank you for the insight. In my Blog as you read, I am making note of the fact that it seems the typical Male/Female talk that you would find on a typical site is avoided. I admit to my being a novice in here and perhaps time will have me discovering otherwise? Senior Friend Finder....those words taken very literally could and do allow for all levels of shared communications on all subjects. I ....meaning "me," was mistakenly thinking that it was a site where older ladies specifically desired to discover some older gentlemen friends. Again.... thanks for the insightful hint about that other site.
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