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3Smiley4u 77F
141 posts
2/22/2023 5:35 pm
My time at Sff


i came to this site in 2012 and have met some very good people at the "bashes". I have dated some men but so far I have not met mr Right. I have stayed on this site in hopes that some of the people would see that i am just like them but with a different skin tone. Some folk are eager to meet peopl that are different than them as I am and are happy to make friends just as I am. unfortunately some of the old folk refuse to accept the change. When I came to this site i used to stay on chat and I loved it but later a man told me that some of the women in chat had threatend them if they dated me.I was shocked that the men were weak enough to listen. i am seriously thinking of leaving the site and just running my small business.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/22/2023 5:35 pm

Just checking.


hermitinthecity 70M
1696 posts
2/22/2023 6:06 pm

I'm still trying to digest what you've said. First of all for the absurdity of the women who threatened the men, who do they think they are? Then the men for even listening to it and not telling these women where to get off. I'm astounded.

My ex wife is black, I'm white, we had brown kids, nice, who cares? This world is getting nuts.

Don't let them spoil your life. Ignore them, block them, they cant do anything. They are just keyboard harassers with no power at all. Block them and keep on enjoying what you enjoy. I do.

Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.


serendipity_2012 74F
190 posts
2/22/2023 6:18 pm

Oh my goodness I cant believe that people can be like that and for the men to listen to it if we could just all get along and not pay attention to the colour of our skin we are all humans underneath our skin please dont leave this site just because of a few idiots you are a lovely woman and a lovely chatter take care


3Smiley4u 77F

2/22/2023 6:27 pm

    Quoting hermitinthecity:
    I'm still trying to digest what you've said. First of all for the absurdity of the women who threatened the men, who do they think they are? Then the men for even listening to it and not telling these women where to get off. I'm astounded.

    My ex wife is black, I'm white, we had brown kids, nice, who cares? This world is getting nuts.

    Don't let them spoil your life. Ignore them, block them, they cant do anything. They are just keyboard harassers with no power at all. Block them and keep on enjoying what you enjoy. I do.
Hello Hermit....Thank you so much for your response. lol...yep the world is getting nuts. NO i did not let them bother me and that is why I have been here so long to let them know that they will not run me off. I loved the bashes that we had when Duckey was alive and since we no longer have them it is no fun for me now and I need to put more effort into my small business.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/22/2023 6:36 pm

    Quoting serendipity_2012:
    Oh my goodness I cant believe that people can be like that and for the men to listen to it if we could just all get along and not pay attention to the colour of our skin we are all humans underneath our skin please dont leave this site just because of a few idiots you are a lovely woman and a lovely chatter take care
Hello Serend hugs gtsy..........Racism is not going to change in this country for a long time probably when this older generation dies out. I am not leaving because of those folk in fact that is why I have stayed here so long....to show them that they could not run me off. I have a small business that I run and I am going to give it more of my attention and wait for the Good Lord to put mr right in my life as I know that he will. Thank you so much for your kind words and I will always remember how kind you have always been to me.......my old handle was Brightsmile .


hermitinthecity 70M
1696 posts
2/22/2023 6:52 pm

    Quoting 3Smiley4u:
    Hello Hermit....Thank you so much for your response. lol...yep the world is getting nuts. NO i did not let them bother me and that is why I have been here so long to let them know that they will not run me off. I loved the bashes that we had when Duckey was alive and since we no longer have them it is no fun for me now and I need to put more effort into my small business.
Duckey? You mean Yellow Duck? If it's Yellow Duck I met him when he came to Oz. A group of us hired a car together and did some sight seeing around Coffs Harbour years ago. He was a lot of fun, nice guy.

When he saw our speed signs he said if it was in the U.S. those who put them up could get taken to court, he called them 'entrapment' as they changed so frequently.

He told me he had a heart problem back then. I'm guessing it's him that has passed?

Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.


StarCandy1 69F
1798 posts
2/22/2023 7:02 pm

Smiley ... U r beautiful ! If a man listens to vicious lies of women who r jealous... U don't want them anyway. I would love to find a man that is real. Can show emotions and love, and not show me their family jewels ! People don't like that I am direct. That I am from NY. Also that I am heavyset ! But I will tell U something and U know it's right ...."WE" r loved by the best man ever ! GOD ! Stay true to U ! We r loved !!!! HUGS


Steamboy_2472 64M
410 posts
2/22/2023 7:58 pm

I have met some very nice people too I think I joined in June 22


looklook 84M
3925 posts
2/22/2023 8:38 pm

Bright, many of us will miss you if you leave us. There are still many people like Yellow Duck on this site. The numbers of such people of both sexes would outnumber people called otherwise. Take care, and be safe.


Shartaun03 81F
6196 posts
2/22/2023 8:50 pm

Well Smiley join the club. I have been on this site since 2003 and I haven't met the love of my life either. I have long given up on that. I have come to know a lot of people on this site some of whom are still around and some who have passed on. I am mainly on the blogs and haven't been in chat for a number of years. I think the best place to meet someone would possibly be the blogs for at least you would get some idea of who they are and are not scammers.


maudie1957 74F
1262 posts
2/23/2023 12:57 am

I wish you well Bright, whatever you decide to do.


Archer62 83F
7087 posts
2/23/2023 5:48 am

I AM VERY UPSET BY WHAT YOU HAVE WRITTEN, HOW DARE ANYONE THREATEN ANYONE ELSE FOR THEIR CHOICE IN DATING, ESPECIALLY AT OUR AGE. PEOPLE OF EITHER SEX WHO DO THAT DO NOT DESERVE THE RESPECT OF ANYONE, WHAT WE AS INDIVIDUALS DO OR DO NOT DO IS OUR BUSINESS AND NO ONE ELSE'S I HOPE YOU WILL DECIDE TO STICK AROUND AND IF YOU WANT TO DATE JUST PLAIN DO IT AND IF THE MEN ON THIS SITE ARE SO WEAK THEY LISTEN TO THREATS FROM PEOPLE THEY WILL NEVER KNOW IN PERSON, THEN LOOK OUTSIDE THE SITE. ALL MY BEST TO YOU.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 6:07 am

    Quoting hermitinthecity:
    Duckey? You mean Yellow Duck? If it's Yellow Duck I met him when he came to Oz. A group of us hired a car together and did some sight seeing around Coffs Harbour years ago. He was a lot of fun, nice guy.

    When he saw our speed signs he said if it was in the U.S. those who put them up could get taken to court, he called them 'entrapment' as they changed so frequently.

    He told me he had a heart problem back then. I'm guessing it's him that has passed?
Hermit.............I am sorry to say that Yellow Duck passed.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 6:15 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you Koffla.........I have been telling Bob that I am going to attend but I have not for one reason or another. If I am told when they will have one in the future I will attend even though I might not be on Sff anymore.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 6:20 am

    Quoting StarCandy1:
    Smiley ... U r beautiful ! If a man listens to vicious lies of women who r jealous... U don't want them anyway. I would love to find a man that is real. Can show emotions and love, and not show me their family jewels ! People don't like that I am direct. That I am from NY. Also that I am heavyset ! But I will tell U something and U know it's right ...."WE" r loved by the best man ever ! GOD ! Stay true to U ! We r loved !!!! HUGS
Awwww Starcandy you are such a sweetie pie. You are correct when that man told me what those women had done I thought to myself......I do not want a man who is that weak and will listen to women who are lonely racists.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 6:22 am

    Quoting Steamboy_2472:
    I have met some very nice people too I think I joined in June 22
Hello Steamboy and thank you for sharing.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 6:28 am

    Quoting looklook:
    Bright, many of us will miss you if you leave us. There are still many people like Yellow Duck on this site. The numbers of such people of both sexes would outnumber people called otherwise. Take care, and be safe.
Looklook ((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))........It was always a pleasure chatting with you and reading your blogs.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 6:39 am

    Quoting Shartaun03:
    Well Smiley join the club. I have been on this site since 2003 and I haven't met the love of my life either. I have long given up on that. I have come to know a lot of people on this site some of whom are still around and some who have passed on. I am mainly on the blogs and haven't been in chat for a number of years. I think the best place to meet someone would possibly be the blogs for at least you would get some idea of who they are and are not scammers.
Shartaun.......Thank you. I agree with what you said. I am leaving because i am spending too much time on SFF and not enough time taking care of my business.I have known people to say"When you stop looking for a man is when you will find one" So I thought since I need to paint more for my business that might just work for me........lol


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 6:41 am

    Quoting maudie1957:
    I wish you well Bright, whatever you decide to do.
Hello Maudie.... Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope all is well with you.


Rocketship 80F
18568 posts
2/23/2023 7:22 am

Is this a fairly recent conversation with a man here?

If so, he's lying to you!! What a terrible excuse for a person he is!!

He needs to crawl back into whatever hole he crawled out of...

He is a real NUTTER~~~

You are much loved here my friend.

** Name and shame~~~


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 7:58 am

    Quoting Rocketship:
    Is this a fairly recent conversation with a man here?

    If so, he's lying to you!! What a terrible excuse for a person he is!!

    He needs to crawl back into whatever hole he crawled out of...

    He is a real NUTTER~~~

    You are much loved here my friend.

    ** Name and shame~~~

Hugggggggggggggg Rocket......My friend.......I love you as a friend and I think I know who you are talking about but he is not the one. The man who told me that was about 2 years after I joined SFF. He either changed his handle or left the site.I did not get upset because I figured something like that was happening. So I will still be on fbk to keep in touch with all of my sff friends.


Rocketship 80F
18568 posts
2/23/2023 8:29 am

    Quoting 3Smiley4u:
    Hugggggggggggggg Rocket......My friend.......I love you as a friend and I think I know who you are talking about but he is not the one. The man who told me that was about 2 years after I joined SFF. He either changed his handle or left the site.I did not get upset because I figured something like that was happening. So I will still be on fbk to keep in touch with all of my sff friends.
Times have changed for the better over the years.

Lots of Hugsss my friend !!


Abelle2 83F
31227 posts
2/23/2023 10:19 am

Alfie and I know you are real!

We know you changed your handle after some time away but your face is still the same friend of us. me and he


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 2:27 pm

    Quoting Rocketship:
    Times have changed for the better over the years.

    Lots of Hugsss my friend !!

Rocket my friend you are so correct .Things have changed and they will continue to do so as long as there are good folk like you and the other folk who responded to this blog with much love and kindness. I will still have contact with a lot of you on FBook.


3Smiley4u 77F

2/23/2023 2:38 pm

    Quoting Abelle2:
    Alfie and I know you are real!

    We know you changed your handle after some time away but your face is still the same friend of us. me and he
Adelle and Alfie I love you both for being the kind and loving couple that I know you to be. I was so happy when I got to meet you both at the bash in Nashville. I will never forget having breakfast with Alfie at the hotel I think you had either gone to the ladies room or had not come down yet. I will never forget Alfie was talking with his British accent and I was sittiing there talking with my southern drawl and some folk were staring at the both of us talking...........lol...it was funny to me to after i thought about how it sounded.