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Star's Got Silver Last Summer I made a decision to quit coloring my hair and find it quite liberating. I found that surviving the first Saturn Return and turning 60 to be quite freeing. I no long give a FiretrUCK about attracting or impressing the opposite gender. I am totally okay alone and prefer that to being in that relationships from Hades that I encountered in the past. Ironically, now that I am no longer interested in a relationship, I have attracted a suitor and I am terrified. He has been a friend for several years. His wife died suddenly and unexpectedly and he remarried within a few months after his wife's death. This marriage has now gone south so he had been calling me. He is a complete basket case and wants me to come over and fix it. Gadzooks! I came back to West Virginia in 2011 because my ex-husband was seriously ill. I took care of him including Hospice Care when he died in 2013. The grief was so intense that I cannot imagine jumping into another marriage like this man did when his wife died. No man could have fixed that grief. I had to walk though it on my own. I am certainly open to the possibility of a relationship but I am not looking for one. The last time, I almost had a date. We were going to a play at the local theatre. I told him that I don't consider sex until at least three months. He cancelled the date. Yea Haw! I can go to the theatre by myself or with a girlfriend.  Abracadabra  |
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Way to go! 
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Sounds like your friend is too needy, can't be alone. Some people are like that, I think it's a kind of fear. I enjoy not being tied down, and the more time that goes by, the more I like it! I had an aunt who was married to the same man for 52 years, when he died, her older brother wanted to move in with her and she said NO! She actually told him she never wanted to take care of another man ever again, not even him, she wanted to live alone and do what she pleased. I liked her, she was a feisty little thing.
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You have to do what you feel is right. I would be a bit worried about a guy that marries so soon after his wife died. As far as your hair, my aunt did the same thing. Her hair went prematurely grey and she colored it for decades. She stopped and she's happier than ever. IF something makes you happy, do it or in this case, no longer color your hair. Good for you, starwomyn.  Elaine Shuel
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Until a person learns to live and function on their own, I think that they are not really a complete person. Once you know that you can successfully live on your own, if you do decide to get into a relationship it is on equal turns with that other person. Many women often decide that they like their independent lifestyle.
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