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starwomyn 70F
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7/6/2017 7:36 pm

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A Reminder to Myself!!!!! Dealing with On-Line Bullies

A Reminder to Myself!!!!! Dealing with On-Line Bullies
Posted:Jul 15, 2006 9:53 am
Last Updatedct 8, 2008 8:03 am
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The best way to deal with an on-line bully don't respond, don't interact and don't engage.

This is not easy but it is doable. The first natural response is self-defense but it is counter-productive to communicate or reason with a bully.

The bully does not function with the mindset of a mature adult. The bully is constitutionally incapable of reason. The bully may be an adult on the outside, on the inside they are like ill-mannered who's never grew up - and probably never will. Bullies and harassers often have disordered thinking patterns.

Keep documentation of the abuse in a file. When the time comes to take action, this file is your evidence. Bullies, especially cyberbullies, are obsessive people and if their account is closed down, they may start another profile so expect to receive harassing messages from that profile. This can later be compared to harassing messages already received to identify the bully. There will be similar words, phrases and strategies occurring.

Don’t try to deal with the bully yourself. Even mature experienced adults often cannot handle bullying and harassment by themselves. Get a third party to intercede and take the bully to task.

When people use bullying behaviors they project their own weaknesses, failings and shortcomings on to others. In other words, they are telling you about themselves by fabricating an accusation based on something they themselves have done wrong. When you are being harassed on-line, ask the question, "What is this person revealing about themselves this time?"

When the timing is right, take action. Prepare carefully and strike hard. Ignoring the bully may cause them to lose interest and find an easier target to torment but don't count on it. The cyberbully may obsessed to the point that that s/he cannot and will not let go. You will have to make that person let go, but only through swift, hard, action. It is best not to deal with the abuser yourself.

NEVER try to mediate, negotiate, conciliate or otherwise deal with a bully or stalker yourself


. Always remember Rule #1: don't respond, don't interact and don't engage.

Ignore Button,
Ban Button
and Report Abuse



Abracadabra


starwomyn 70F
8871 posts
7/6/2017 7:37 pm

This is an article that I found and posted in 2006 when I was dealing with this situation.

Abracadabra


starwomyn 70F
8871 posts
7/6/2017 8:25 pm

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I don't blame you. All you did is speak your truth. Anyone who knows you know better than a pack of lies from an unprogressed soul.

I just remember being the target of a flame war in 2006, I responded very badly to it and it escalated into something very ugly. I learned from it and deal with it a whole lot better now.

The problem with stooping to somebody else's level is that you are enabling their sickness.

Abracadabra


starwomyn 70F
8871 posts
7/6/2017 8:29 pm

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It is not about political parties. It is about civilized behavior. People don't get themselves into trouble by being crazy, they get in trouble by acting crazy. Your behavior is totally insane.

Abracadabra


starwomyn 70F
8871 posts
7/6/2017 8:52 pm

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I suspect that your attacker has multiple profiles - and that a certain "gang" is actually one person behind the keys. If she crosses the line too many time, the SFF police can find the common internet address and zap them all off at once. This means she/he have to find a different computer and location to create another fake profile.

Abracadabra


looklook 84M
3925 posts
7/6/2017 11:11 pm


This site has taught me to ignore the bullies and the racists equally, Star for attaining ultimate peace and tranquility!


MrsJoe 76F
17308 posts
7/7/2017 5:20 am

Quoting NorthDakota2017:
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Hardly Insane Star-But Hey Rock On!!
You Are Constantly Calling Bloggers Insane Who
Don't Fit Into YOUR Agenda On Here ---Oh The Games
Star Plays Now ..... Remember That Little Ditty???
Many In Here Remember The Games You Played
Way Back When -Back To Your Old Tricks I See
Lizzie And You Are Tight-Enjoy The Ride
With Him?? It's Going To Get Very Bumpy lol

I had to laugh at this comment........ Star, you are definitely NOT a game player!
I too, remember those early days of flaming wars, wow--can't believe it has been 10 years! ...... not something to be proud of, but something to learn from.
Although you and I were on opposites of the battle line, we learned to cross that line, make amends and have an amiable relationship, built on common grounds, not on differences. And yes, we still have differences of opinions on many issues, but I am proud to call you "friend", even if it is only on the internet.


Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.


Rentier1

7/7/2017 6:50 am

I like making fun of them.

Perhaps that is why I rarely get any.

My fav was one from way back in Usenet days who labelled me as Leech The Slimey Serb.


frenchsalsa2 77F
7809 posts
7/7/2017 5:00 pm

Excellent!!
"I go along with "NEVER try to mediate, negotiate, conciliate or otherwise deal with a bully or stalker yourself.... Always remember Rule #1: don't respond, don't interact and don't engage."
Easier said than done (at times)... I know...I'm learning... when I think of those who have attacked me WHOA!! lol