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Useful when the wife just cannot stop nagging ( Damn ! Man U lost! Two draws and a loss. Now that's not a good start but they will make good. I just know they will ! ) I was driving home the other night after having a nice cup of teh tarik (tea) at my favourite tea stall when I felt a pain in my chest. I was in the Lake Gardens and since it was almost midnight, the place was quite deserted. My first thought was "heart attack" and I remember thinking, "Is this it ? Time to go ? Heck ! What a pleasant way to go ! At night in the beautiful Lake Gardens with the stars above, the moon so bright and the radio playing a nice sentimental song". Alas, it was not to be. I guess the Big Guy up there has decided that it was not yet time. The funny thing is I was so calm. It was not like this previously; I had a lot of fears and anxieties like fear of heights, fear of flying, fear of death, etc. And I worried a lot. I worried that things may go wrong and I was always very tensed and uptight. Psychologists say that people who are bullied when young grow up to be full of anxiety. Maybe they are right. I was a bit of a nerd when I was in primary school and I was bullied. But I fought back and the bullying stopped but I was never really close with my school mates. There always seem to be a chasm between them and me. I never really felt I belong. However, I did not notice my fears until after I got married and had a family. I was the sole bread winner and I guess the burden got to me. I was always worried about what's going to happen to them if something bad were to happen to me. So I was very careful and seldom took risks. But the have grown up now and have their own careers in Singapore. The wife and I are doing alright with a roof over our heads and a compact but nice car to drive and if anything were to happen to me, the pension and the insurance money would allow her to live comfortably. I guess the Big Guy has looked after me and mine quite well. It had not been easy; sending four to university was tough financially on a government servant's pay ! But I knew that I had to put them through university and that failure was not an option. Many were the times when I did not know where the money is going to come from but somehow, we managed. I don't know who said this, " No matter what happens today, the sun will still rise tomorrow" but he must be a very wise man. That was how it was for us back then; somehow, we managed (when the sun rose the next morning). Maybe it's the Big Guy looking after us. Who knows ? Oh, about my fears. I managed to get rid of them after coming across a book called "anxiety toolbox" by Gloria Thomas. Her book teaches us to use two techniques to overcome our fears. The first is Thought Field Therapy (TFT) and there are TFTs for phobias, for depression and for panic attacks. The second technique is Self-Hypnosis. This consists of Breathing, Muscle Relaxation and Mental Relaxation. At first I was sceptical but decided to try it since the wife wanted to go for a holiday in Sydney. Now my fears of height, of travel and of flying are all gone. Even the fear of death is dead ! However I have still not mastered the technique of Self-Hypnosis. There are people who can almost instantly go into complete relaxation; the mind will then be free of all thoughts and completely blank and oblivious of it's surroundings. Useful when the wife just can't stop nagging ! Lee Live today as if it is your last For tomorrow will soon be in the past |
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Hi Lee, Glad that you're okay!! 'No matter what happens today, the sun will still rise tomorrow' is kind of how I try to look at life as well. How liberating to have conquered those fears!! Take care!!
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Thank you Rocketship. Hope your rocket takes you to paradise. I heard that the sun never sets over there! Thank you cariad. Love your poems. Thank you flakes. How do you find so many quotes ? You read a lot don't you ? Live today as if it is your last For tomorrow will soon be in the past
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Hi Comtessa, Thank you for your suggestions. I have learned TM a long time ago but have stopped practising it. I find TFT and self-hypnosis very effective: my fears have all been overcome, even the fear of heights (finally, after so many years ). The TFT for phobia is particularly effective and should help you overcome your fear of heights. Live today as if it is your last For tomorrow will soon be in the past
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