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People who have not been abused by a parent/guardian can't even IMAGINE what an abused person has gone through and will have to live with, for all of his/her life. People can tell you what to do, but it is up to YOU to decide what you CAN and CAN NOT do. HUGZ to all that have been hurt.
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There is no rationale to it. But, the wronged person must forgive for their own sake.... holding on to bitterness only hurts the person holding on to it. However, just because you forgive someone does not mean that you have to associate with them, family or not, and put yourself in a situation to endure further abuse or bring back all those old memories and hurt. I notice you said her family is the ones criticizing and even shunning her...... but not her father asking for her to visit. That says volumes. It is hard to look at a situation from the outside and make judgment calls, so I'll just say I believe she should do what makes her the most at peace, regardless of what others say. Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.
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I can relate to the situation Joannita. I do not forgive the person involved nor has forgiveness been asked for by that person. I certainly don't dwell on that person, in fact I have wiped them from my world to the best of my ability. My life is peaceful and fulfilling. Their age makes no difference to me what so ever. I think that if someone is pressuring her on this, she needs to quietly ask them not to bring the topic up again and if they persist, just quietly get up and leave. Hopefully they will get the message.
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Hitler's sins are unpardonable! I truly don't know how others are to be treated who also sinned differently! However, I believe that as forgiveness is a great virtue, we may consider forgiving someone close who has wronged us for a longtime intentionally or unintentionally! But we must not forget what such a person has done to us!
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7/23/2017 11:43 pm |
I can really relate. I was physically and emotionally abused and neglected by my parents and my older brother. None of them changed over the years. What I experienced affected my whole life and I still have nightmares. Despite years of therapy I still haven't forgiven any of them but might be able to if only one of them would have expressed any regret or apologized with an explanation. Sorry but I have no advice and am facing the same situation today that you are facing. Forgive and forget?? How on earth can an abused person do that without getting amnesia??
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