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used to be, Saturday night was the lonliest night of the week. But no longer. Mostly because the rules have changed so much since I was a youth, engaged in the pursuit of a relationship. Truth be told, I disliked every moment of the arduous task of DATING. And if I could not acquire a date for Friday or Saturday, I was deemed a failure. One thing I hated dearly. Until I started high school. Now, understand, I grew up in Berkeley, California and graduated from high school in the early 60s. So society, the society I understood was changing radically moment by moment. First thing I learned was that women were people. Okay, laugh, or boo, but until 1960 I was dead certain women were another species. That was the rule of thumb back then. They were treated differently, and you were never entirely honest with them because you wanted to please them. Yeah, I wanted to please you, and would go to any length. But in high school I started developing female friends, intellectual equals and betters. And I learned the fallacy of the "weaker sex" So I stopped dating and started meeting with friends. Learned to be honest with everyone. Alright there is now a brief interlude while I fast forward 20 years, while I destroyed m.y brain on drugs and alcohol, and nothing mattered. I got sober in '81 and the rules I had learned in high school about treating women as equals still worked. I was married for awhile by then, and got reacquainted with my wife. Then 15 years ago she died, and I stopped caring. Today, there is no dating. I believe in the Golden Rule and will treat you the same way I hope you will treat me, but without expectation or prejudice. I will give you no pretense, or false front. No games, no empty promises. I will be the very best person I can possibly be when we are together, but not for your sake, but for mine and for God's. 
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