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How well do you know this person?.....How big an apartment do you need for you to be OK with sharing?.........At least 2 largeish bedrooms with en-suite bathrooms......????......Sit quietly and imagine the scenarios of you sharing an apartment.......how will you respond to the situations?......
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By the way, I'm very sorry and embarrassed about the mess I made on your music blog. I was very distracted and kept making mistakes......and I didn't realize that your blog posted the newest comments at the top instead of the usual format. Also,myy internet was acting up and I thought my comments weren't posting.......A big mess, I know.........
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take that senior's friends and family, and yours! into consideration as well. And pets. Most important, do they like to cook?!
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A lot would depend on the size of the place you would be sharing, how much privacy you each would have, how well you know this person & their friends, if they're financially able to pay their share of the rent, etc. etc. etc. Good luck~~~ 
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On your main blog page, click on "Edit My Settings" Which is near the top of the page. Then put the checkmark in "Oldest Comments First" That should fix the problem.
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3/8/2019 6:27 pm |
Do not do it. Never take on 1/2 responsibility for someone else. If the rent is so high that you can not pay it without someone else paying part of it you will loose in the end. It is not affordable. Party On!
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That would definitely be a tough decision to make, and not one to make in haste. How "senior" a person is it, and how independent is she? Are your personalities and habits compatible? Are your levels of functioning compatible? There would need to be "house rules" discussed like who does what and when, how expenses are divided, and what about family and friends staying there for a period of time. Another thing would be the legal responsibilities on the lease. What if she just packs up and leaves? Are you stuck with the complete rent for the rest of the lease? A lot to think about. Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.
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At this stage of my life I would not want a room mate. I have lived on my own for the majority of my life. Some good points by others have been posted. Back in the day when I had room mates we didn't seem to have a problem with someone moving out and leaving the rest of the group with the expenses. I was around 30 when I finally got my own place and have done so ever since. I own now and live in a one bedroom place so it wouldn't be feasible for me to hook up with a room mate and not even a male. Good luck and hope it all works out for you.
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Silly question regarding comment order [but I'll ask anyway~~ ]Did you click SAVE near the bottom after you made the change?
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3/9/2019 12:17 pm |
Return to where you were happy. I know it can be easier said than done though. If there is one thing I've learned through life's journey it is that every time I made a decision against my instinct and it turned out better than I thought it might I accepted the blessing with genuine relief and was deeply grateful. However, every time I acted against my instinct and things went south, either immediately or eventually, I struggled with regret and frustration, and some of those mistakes proved costly. But the biggest cost of all was unhappiness. My advice is to bet on happiness in the near term knowing that you are open to tweaking the decision later when the dust settles. That might temper the impact of frustration or regret should it materialize. A person once told me 'you see risk, but I see opportunity'. Well it was my purpose to manage risk in that situation, and I ended up being right...BUT, that comment did open my mind to think about things more openly. Perhaps that would serve you best here?
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3/9/2019 12:22 pm |
As far as being close to your kids, I am fortunate to be close to both of mine. I cannot imagine giving that up now....it adds to my sense of security and deepens my love for them. I count my blessings daily for that. To tell you the truth, that is the one thing that tempers my existing frustration more than anything else.
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3/11/2019 3:50 am |
When two parties are on a lease. Each one is legally bound to the other. In the event one does not or can not pay -----The other party is liable for 100% of the rent. THEREFORE if you can not pay 100% of the rent without a room mate it is a very bad deal. When one can not pay how do you rid yourself of the situation? If both CAN pay --neither one needs the problem. Do NOT go there. But what do I know?? LOL Party On!
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