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Gratitude for Loss This week was a more introspective time for me. Yesterday was the 9th anniversary of my husband’s passing. Doesn’t sound like that would be anything to be grateful for. It’s not but there are many things related to it that I am grateful for. I am grateful that he passed from cardiac arrest rather than having to go through the end stages of his terminal cancer. I am grateful for my family who took care of things for me when I could not. I am grateful for friends and family who rallied and were there to support me. They gave me comfort and a purpose to pull it together and go on. I am grateful for the many wonderful years I had and all of the great memories. So many people never find the perfect partner. I am grateful I did. Some say life’s pleasure is not worth the pain. Not so. Had I known the outcome from the beginning I would do it again in a heartbeat. Everything has a price. I am grateful for all of the wonderful experiences and great people the Universe sent my way in the years since. I have gone places, met people and had many experiences and relationships I never would have had or even in my wildest dreams thought possible. This has not been without challenges and more losses and pain but I have been given the strength and courage to meet them and to heal and recover. I am grateful to have the life I do today with people around me who love and appreciate me. I don’t think I would appreciate them as much had I not know loss. My “golden years” are nothing like what I wanted, envisioned or even considered possible but the alternative is pretty awesome. Life is a gift I am grateful for and intend to do my best to enjoy and make the most of every moment of it. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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1/27/2013 7:03 pm |
wow.... what a great testimony to being able to find the good in your situation. I thank you for this blog it encourages me to be more adept at finding the goodness in mine each day. I will choose faith over fear.
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Your blog tells me volumes about what wonderful person you are, thank you. . The beginning of life, conception..
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Very inspirational and heart warming blog. I know exactly how you feel because I too have walked in your shoes. Alfie...
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1/28/2013 9:13 am |
This was lovely Spirit, but then I know you to be such a person.. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:16 am |
Interesting thought. My sense is that it would be grief but different. One of longing rather than loss. Have experienced both and neither feels good. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:19 am |
I think it shows the depth of our love to be happy for their speedy passing. Years ago a young women resident at a clinic where I worked at the time enlightened me on how few people simply die - that death is usually a gradual process that is neither kind nor easy. When we really love someone we are willing to go through any suffering for them and I believe this includes mourning. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:24 am |
wow.... what a great testimony to being able to find the good in your situation. I thank you for this blog it encourages me to be more adept at finding the goodness in mine each day. Another example - the 911 attacks in NYC brought us together as a country and as humans - at least for a while. Unfortunately this camaraderie passed all too quickly. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:25 am |
Thank you. AS I said in other responses it is not easy to become one who looks at the positive aspects of things but once you retrain yourself it becomes routine. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:26 am |
Thank you. I know you understand the process. Hope you are doing well. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:35 am |
When I was in the midst of the worst of this some would tell me it does get better. Hard to see at the time. You won't ever forget and you will never replace what you lost but in time (which is different for all of us) you will begin to see other opportunities and regain some interest in something, perhaps as I did something so different you never would have considered it before. I probably moved along a bit faster than most becasue I still had a day job that gave me structure and had my 2 year old granddaughter living with me. I remember how some days I would not want to get out of bed. Hard to do with en enthusiastic little one jumping up and down on you saying "Wake up Nonie. It's a sunny day". She meant it literally but there was much wisdom in this. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:37 am |
As Helen Ready sang "Yes, I am wise but it is wisdom for the pain.". Without these experiences we would never grow in spirit and mind. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:38 am |
PS - love the new photo and new look. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:40 am |
Your blog tells me volumes about what wonderful person you are, thank you. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:41 am |
Very inspirational and heart warming blog. I know exactly how you feel because I too have walked in your shoes. Alfie... Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:46 am |
Ah, we humans and our plans. Mostly they turn out to be irrelevant when tomorrow actually gets here. On a positive note in your case, consider the inheritance you never thought of and the wonderful trip you have planned. You didn't get another life partner yet but look at the opportunity you got, if that is still a desire, to find one in such an unexpected way. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 9:48 am |
Thank you. One of these days we will get to meet. Sooner or later health and responsibilities will allow it. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 5:16 pm |
It is amazing how you find the strength when you have to. I am sure you would surprise yourself. I know most of us who have been through this did. Spiritwoman ^i^
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1/28/2013 10:19 pm |
That you can and be open to new options for retirement. I always thought I would be traveling the country in a motor home with my husband. Nothing like what I am doing now. Spiritwoman ^i^
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