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Cyber Relationships The question of whether or not "love" can bloom on line without real time meetings is one often discussed here as well as in many other places. We each have our personal opinions of pros and cons on the subject. I ran across this tidbit which gives us something additional to consider when making this decision.  Personally I think the ultimate answer is an individual thing. For some a cyber relationship might be the ideal type of "love" connection. For others there is nothing appealing about the idea. The trick is to connect with a compatible partner with the same needs and definitions. Wishing everyone the type of relationship that fulfills their needs and wants. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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spiritwoman45, I love you, from this site, I have never met you but still love you because you have enriched my life and I will always respect you for that! . The beginning of life, conception..
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9/21/2013 6:12 pm |
I fell in love with Dans soul way before we met face to face!!, 3 Yrs later his soul is just as beautiful as the nite we first talked!
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9/21/2013 11:05 pm |
Glad you can use it. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/21/2013 11:10 pm |
I had the same sort of thing when I first started dating but it was what I was looking for at that time. Too much else going on in life an not ready emotionally for a real relationship. When I was ready I did move on to in person relationships. Various levels of them over time but I think I felt more comfortable sharing more with my cyber BF, perhaps becasue I knew I wouldn't have to deal with the day to day stuff. None of my relationships of any kind after loosing my husband have been the over the top love matches, probably becasue I have not been looking for that. Compatibility and companionship and the ability to put up with me seem to be best at this stage in life. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/21/2013 11:11 pm |
Often times yes and if it's a fantasy it probably doesn't matter if it is on line or in real life. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/21/2013 11:22 pm |
I guess I am true to my name as well - I have a foot in each world but even though I enjoy them both, I do know the difference between fantasy and reality. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/21/2013 11:24 pm |
spiritwoman45, I love you, from this site, I have never met you but still love you because you have enriched my life and I will always respect you for that! Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/21/2013 11:26 pm |
No problem with that. Most of us need some sort of package but in the end we need the same level of depth as we offer to have a lasting relationship. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/21/2013 11:32 pm |
Oh My - that was quite a rescue. Sounds like it should be a scene in a comedy movie. I don't think I would have the courage to meet a new person in such a vulnerable situation. I've met lots of men via computer contact over the years. I would estimate that only 1 out of 5 worked into something worth a second meeting for either of us. Of those only 2 ever evolved into a significant, on going relationship. A couple have remained long term friends as well. Just how it works but you can't win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket! I hope things work out for your girlfriend. If she is looking for a real world situation she has lots more patience than I would have - but if it turns out to be a great situation Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/21/2013 11:33 pm |
I fell in love with Dans soul way before we met face to face!!, 3 Yrs later his soul is just as beautiful as the nite we first talked! Spiritwoman ^i^
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One simple statement - if in a cyber friendship, one gets the emotional contentment, why not ??!! Physical proximity is not always necessary - someone went to the extreme of saying that 'it might even spoil the good thing that one has going'. I personally disagree with that last though. Have a wonderful day - no one has the right to deny anyone the right to dream.  Have a wonderful Sunday and the week(s) ahead.  "To fight the darkness do not draw your sword, light a candle" - Zarathustra
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I think it's different for different people. some it works and some it doesn't, but no matter the end result it's always better to have felt something than to have felt nothing at all. Feeling come and go and it is in our capacity to reel them back in and cast them out again that makes loving worthwhile. For those that can't reel them back or find that casting them out again is not a worthwhile venture, love will always be a past tense word.
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9/22/2013 9:58 am |
Your experience is a great illustration of what many of us have expressed - that there are fantasy and reality based relationships. I see no problem with either as long as everyone involved knows the difference. As for the married in denial thing. Happens all to often in real life as well. When I was around 40 and between husbands the ration of married liars to single men I met was about 5 - 1 in favor of the marrieds in denial. For me at least it is a bit easier to screen them our when things begin as a cyber relationship. I found that the ones who are ready for a reality based relationship will find a way to meet quickly even if it is difficult. The others? They are either married, involved or like some of us have been at times only seeking a fantasy relationship anyway. Takes all kinds of us to keep the world turning. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/22/2013 10:00 am |
Some belief systems suggest that all of our experiences and what we call reality is the illusion. Most of the time reality is so convoluted that I agree. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/22/2013 10:02 am |
One simple statement - if in a cyber friendship, one gets the emotional contentment, why not ??!! Physical proximity is not always necessary - someone went to the extreme of saying that 'it might even spoil the good thing that one has going'. I personally disagree with that last though. Have a wonderful day - no one has the right to deny anyone the right to dream. Have a wonderful Sunday and the week(s) ahead. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/22/2013 10:05 am |
You and Joe are indeed a couple of the blessed ones. I understand completely as this is what happened with my late husband. Began the minute we laid eyes on each other and lasted until death did us part. I don't think this happens very often. I already know you count your blessings so won't remind you. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/22/2013 10:06 am |
I think it's different for different people. some it works and some it doesn't, but no matter the end result it's always better to have felt something than to have felt nothing at all. Feeling come and go and it is in our capacity to reel them back in and cast them out again that makes loving worthwhile. For those that can't reel them back or find that casting them out again is not a worthwhile venture, love will always be a past tense word. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/23/2013 3:56 am |
Hi Spirit: I think that if someone from our own area sends us a private message, and if we don't find them totally repulsive, then it's best to meet in person right away instead of e-mailing back and forth or even talking on the phone. It's much easier to fall in 'love' with someone via e-mails or phone, but only when we meet someone in person will either person know if there's anything there or not.
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9/23/2013 10:41 am |
Hi Spirit: I think that if someone from our own area sends us a private message, and if we don't find them totally repulsive, then it's best to meet in person right away instead of e-mailing back and forth or even talking on the phone. It's much easier to fall in 'love' with someone via e-mails or phone, but only when we meet someone in person will either person know if there's anything there or not. Spiritwoman ^i^
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Spirit, Thank you for the response and taking the time to figure out my crooked answer.
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