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~~~~I feel like the biggest idiot!!~~~~ I shared here in blog land about a lady that I had met and her and how they had come to live in my spare room and we had an arrangement that she would help clean etc in lieu of rent until she found a job.... alrighty... seemed like a good arrangement for all involved..... I hate to say this but the honeymoon is over.... there have been issues over several what I consider to be small things.... but a big thing is her being involved with people next door.... the house on one side of me is a known drug house with all the type of people that visit those houses coming in and out all times of the day or night... I told her from the beginning that I did not want ANY dealings with anyone from that house... well she got involved in a domestic dispute that came from a couple at that house over into my back yard.... I heard all the cursing and screaming and went outside.... told them to take it elsewhere that I did not want their 'crap' over here in my space.... my roomie started to argue with me about it, told me they were NOT in my house but in my yard..... that did not go over big with me.... the words started and before I knew it things blew completely out of proportion..... I tried to talk to her about it the following day calmly... again...big argument... so things have been very tense around here to say the least and we haven't really talked much for 3-4 days.... I did tell her that I didn't think the arrangement was going to work out and that it might be best if she made other arrangements..... sooooo she says,"if you want me out you will have to do a legal eviction because I am not leaving....." Guess what.... I talked to a Sheriff deputy tonight and it is true... even though they are not paying a single cent for anything, I have to do a legal eviction through the court! I am still not working so don't know where I am going to get the money to do that.... The way I am feeling tonight is stupid, used and taken advantage of and have had my generosity thrown back in my face.... at this moment I don't want to ever help anyone again and I don't like feeling that way.... Thanks for letting me vent......uggghhhh........ |
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A few years ago I had 3 men staying with me, all going through bust ups etc. One was paying and stayed about 2 years, very dominating and wanting to tell me what to do in my own house. I wished he'd leave after about 20 months so I got another in. I thought they'd be incompatible and they were, hopefully the new one would drive the old one out, he wasnt paying anything as was out of work. In the middle of this another friend needed help, he had a caravan and parked it out the front and used an outside power lead so he could sleep and make coffee there, he came in for meals and the bathroom. He nearly had a fight with the dominating one, but only stayed 3 months. This left me with the other 2. Things were still not good, the one who was not paying would sit around and watch TV all day and when we came home from work, guess what? No dinner cooked. I confronted him and he said he didnt know how. I said there was a recipe book, use that. Then nothing, why? He didnt have the money to buy the stuff needed .... there was plenty of food in the house, always an excuse. He'd grown up in a house with 3 servants. He never cleaned anything no matter what I said. No wonder his wife left him. Then the first one left after he got his settlement for his house, I just had the one out of work doing nothing and hanging around. He just watched TV all day. He was not technical so I cut the wire to the aerial outside at its end where it could not be detected when he was out one day. He said the TV didnt work, I said I didnt care as I dont watch TV anyway (It's true, I dont). It took a couple of months but he left. Out of all of them he stressed me the most because of his laziness. In your case I would figure out something I like to do that will irritate them no end. Play guitar at 3.00am, whatever it takes, get inventive. Put a lock on the bathroom. hehehehe. Change the house locks, and throw their stuff out the front in the street when they are out, then they'll have to take you to court instead and shoe the other foot. I hope I get some other people's ideas rolling with this post. I dont know how many times I've had to relearn Murphy's law, "No good deed goes unpunished." lol Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.
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Just thought of another one, get a good friend who is a biker to come over for a while (as long as he owns his own place) and tell her she's got to share her room with him, like it or leave. lol Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.
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Of course you could 'hire a hermit'  One that doesnt wash for months, wears the same socks and jocks every day, cleans guns on the kitchen table, brings game home to dress, leaves 3 wrecks in the driveway, snores loudly, plays music all hours, a flatulence specialist who talks to himself loudly at all hours, eats all their food as soon as they are gone for a while, all natural qualities a good hermit has anyway. (Just trying to cheer you up with some humour) On a bit of a more serious note, could you get a group of friends together and just 'outnumber' them for a while at convenient times? You being on your own makes you vulnerable. If friends know your plight and come onside it could pressure them to go? Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.
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4/17/2015 5:18 am |
I put up a guy once who had split with his wife and lost his job. The deal was he could stay with me rent-free until he found a job. When he found work he didn't offer to pay any rent, and I decided it wasn't worth the hassle to raise the matter since I didn't need the money. He moved out after of couple of months of employment.
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First of all, you did nothing that should make you feel like an idiot. As I said in your previous blog, if it doesn't turn out well, it's all on that woman (and child) you took in. You are kind and generous and the mother took advantage. Sadly there are people like that. Are there no pro bono lawyers that can help you there? I'm sorry for what you're going through; pink. Elaine Shuel
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4/17/2015 10:45 am |
Unfortunately yours is not a unique story. Hard to believe she is considered a tenant when you have no written agreement nor has she ever paid rent. You need to follow the legal process needed but you might also consider some of the other ideas presented. If she brings others on your property you could tell them to leave. If they don't try having them removed by the police for trespassing. We have had that situation come up more than once at my residence facility when my residents brought "friends" home who caused problems. Fortunately the local police are very cooperative and we even have an informal "no fly" list. Also make sure she does not have access to any of your valuables or when she leaves they might also as in ET's situation. If you are old enough to be considered a senior (the age varies) you might consider contacting your local adult protective services and tell them how she is exploiting you financially and putting you in danger by bringing known drug users into your home.. They might be able to expedite her removal. Spiritwoman ^i^
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4/17/2015 1:18 pm |
You could try putting locks on everything. That might put some pressure on her to leave. How about changing the locks on the doors so she can't get in unless you are there?
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4/18/2015 2:55 am |
Hi Pink: What a stressful situation. I think the Sheriff's deputy is wrong though. The woman is not your tenant, she is your employee. Give her one week's written notice (and keep a copy for yourself) stating the termination date of her employment. Make it clear that on that date her services are no longer required and she is to leave. Hopefully she hasn't made friends with any drug dealers next door, so on the termination date maybe you could have some man with you as you put her belongings out on the sidewalk.
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