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GavinLS2 64M
1183 posts
4/17/2019 9:16 am
Finally, a conclusion


Hi folks!

Some of u probably figured out that I was up to something with my latest blog entries and you'd be right.

I'd hoped to demonstrate that there are some in here whose hate goes beyond their ability to reason, and it could be shown by those who attack for no reason. To do that, I made statements that were basically impossible for anyone to refute, and that harmed or insulted nobody. Unfortunately I was right, but VERY FORTUNATELY it was nowhere near the amount of hate I anticipated!

A few weeks ago, on FB, I caught it in myself where I was getting a sick thrill from frustrating a person there whom I often disagree with politically. I felt ashamed of myself and decided I was gonna try to do better, and avoid attacking people who don't attack me first. I may still disagree but I'll try to remain civil about it.

In my "experiment" (for want of a better word) in SFF blogs, very few really showed me any hate, and I think that's a good sign because hopefully if we can learn to disagree without insulting or humiliating one another, then perhaps we can more often find common ground.

I'm happily disappointed that my predictions about the hate in the blogs turned out much less than I anticipated! I'm enthused!

GBU all,

Gavin


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/17/2019 9:17 am

And I still like cole slaw! LOL

GBU all,

Gavin


hiramhankwilliam 95M
4346 posts
4/17/2019 11:15 am

    Quoting GavinLS2:
    And I still like cole slaw! LOL

    GBU all,

    Gavin

gavin. sadly hate permeates the halls of sff. we have the best haters rat cheer.

I don't do fb but I hear it is worse there.

I often wonder when trump is reelected what will happen.

DEATH IS A CERTAIN, ETERNITY IS A CHOICE


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/17/2019 11:19 am

    Quoting hiramhankwilliam:
    gavin. sadly hate permeates the halls of sff. we have the best haters rat cheer.

    I don't do fb but I hear it is worse there.

    I often wonder when trump is reelected what will happen.
I'm sure there's hate everywhere, but I'm starting to see a way through the maze. Hoping I'm right about that.

TY for commenting and GBU,

Gavin


Rudyk9dad 66M
184 posts
4/17/2019 11:23 am

hate actually got it's human start inside a very small Tibetan Cave when Gork the vegetarian started eating the cave mans version of cole slaw.

A dozen heads of raw cabbage a day!!


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/17/2019 11:35 am

    Quoting Rudyk9dad:
    hate actually got it's human start inside a very small Tibetan Cave when Gork the vegetarian started eating the cave mans version of cole slaw.

    A dozen heads of raw cabbage a day!!
LOLOL!!


RosesLady 67F
6858 posts
4/17/2019 11:51 am

Gavin, there are a lot of wonderful people in SFF, and you never have to look too far to find them. There are also a lot of unhappy, sad and angry people here. It is up to us, whom we choose to pay attention to.

Me.....I have some wonderful friends from here, and they are the ones who are very important in my life, and I let into my life. What is your choice my friend?


" There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works". .


Rocketship 75F
15471 posts
4/17/2019 1:50 pm

Hi Gavin,

I went back and read your previous blog... as I said this morning that I would do.

Of the 25 comments, three were rude, and maybe crude, but did not fall under what I would call 'hateful'.... as per our discussion in chat this morning.

It's wonderful that 22 on the comments were pleasant!!

I think focussing on the negative is a natural emotion when we feel we or our friends are being insulted, isn't it, and of course there's the piling on~~~

Accentuating the positive is a good habit. Practising exhaling before making a negative response keeps our fingers from engaging before our brain gets into gear.

**Please keep posting interesting thoughts, my friend!!


MrsJoe 72F
11116 posts
4/17/2019 1:58 pm

Gavin, now you know I just like to argue and bull-shit with you..... preferable over a nice meal with a steak, potato AND cole slaw! Even better if you are paying again. rofl.

If you don't expect anything from anybody......You won't be disappointed.


bigblock46 73M
9232 posts
4/17/2019 2:25 pm

    Quoting GavinLS2:
    And I still like cole slaw! LOL

    GBU all,

    Gavin

So do I .


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/17/2019 3:19 pm

    Quoting RosesLady:
    Gavin, there are a lot of wonderful people in SFF, and you never have to look too far to find them. There are also a lot of unhappy, sad and angry people here. It is up to us, whom we choose to pay attention to.

    Me.....I have some wonderful friends from here, and they are the ones who are very important in my life, and I let into my life. What is your choice my friend?
Hi Roses!

If I didn't feel the same way about my friends, (who vastly outnumber those who aren't my friends) then I would have left SFF long ago. Still, I'm reluctant to totally ignore those I may find distasteful. Everyone has the possibility of showing some redeeming qualities and I like to stay open for that to happen.

TY for commenting and GBU!

Gavin


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/17/2019 3:22 pm

    Quoting Rocketship:
    Hi Gavin,

    I went back and read your previous blog... as I said this morning that I would do.

    Of the 25 comments, three were rude, and maybe crude, but did not fall under what I would call 'hateful'.... as per our discussion in chat this morning.

    It's wonderful that 22 on the comments were pleasant!!

    I think focussing on the negative is a natural emotion when we feel we or our friends are being insulted, isn't it, and of course there's the piling on~~~

    Accentuating the positive is a good habit. Practising exhaling before making a negative response keeps our fingers from engaging before our brain gets into gear.

    **Please keep posting interesting thoughts, my friend!!

Thank you Rocket! And thanks for tallying the numbers!

GBU,

Gavin


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/17/2019 3:23 pm

    Quoting MrsJoe:
    Gavin, now you know I just like to argue and bull-shit with you..... preferable over a nice meal with a steak, potato AND cole slaw! Even better if you are paying again. rofl.
Hi Joe and MrsJoe!

Hopefully we can dine together again soon!

GBU,

Gavin


LeafReport 68M
1904 posts
4/17/2019 7:34 pm

There's no hate here....it's a right wing excuse designed to hide conservatives from embarrassment....an embarrassment that is far beyond perverse at this juncture...and the denial frankly descends into the abyss of absurdity.


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/17/2019 8:11 pm

    Quoting LeafReport:
    There's no hate here....it's a right wing excuse designed to hide conservatives from embarrassment....an embarrassment that is far beyond perverse at this juncture...and the denial frankly descends into the abyss of absurdity.
I completely disagree. And I think your comment proves my position on the matter, that there IS some hate here. Fortunately, the haters are much fewer than I'd originally assumed. No one else in this blog has chosen to attack the other political side in their comments here. No one else has tried to claim it's all the other side from them and their political cohorts that are to blame. Prior to your comment on this blog entry, not a single other person insulted anyone or blamed anyone.

Wise people on both sides of the political spectrum will agree that there are only a few haters, but along with that fact, neither side is free of guilt on the matter, just as neither side is solely responsible.

Before I did this series, the haters appeared to me to be more numerous, but I erred by not realizing that they are few, and just more noticeable due to their volume, intensity, and frequency.

Thanks for commenting and GBU,

Gavin


shuel2002 60F
5257 posts
4/17/2019 11:19 pm

Here I thought you were just having a slow day when I read your last post.

Elaine Shuel


LeafReport 68M
1904 posts
4/18/2019 1:28 am

    Quoting GavinLS2:
    I completely disagree. And I think your comment proves my position on the matter, that there IS some hate here. Fortunately, the haters are much fewer than I'd originally assumed. No one else in this blog has chosen to attack the other political side in their comments here. No one else has tried to claim it's all the other side from them and their political cohorts that are to blame. Prior to your comment on this blog entry, not a single other person insulted anyone or blamed anyone.

    Wise people on both sides of the political spectrum will agree that there are only a few haters, but along with that fact, neither side is free of guilt on the matter, just as neither side is solely responsible.

    Before I did this series, the haters appeared to me to be more numerous, but I erred by not realizing that they are few, and just more noticeable due to their volume, intensity, and frequency.

    Thanks for commenting and GBU,

    Gavin


Hi Gavin. It's not an attack...its exposing the cover-up and I just exposed you...unfortunately.


DitsyGal2019 67F

4/18/2019 3:02 am

I don't 'hate' anyone....there are some I dislike, some I just totally ignore.....I have chatted for over 10 years and have found that there will always be someone who is going to insult you, disagree with you, even iggy you (oh my!!)....But there must be something here that keeps bringing us back......Maybe it's Gavin's cole slaw


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/18/2019 4:31 am

    Quoting LeafReport:
    Hi Gavin. It's not an attack...its exposing the cover-up and I just exposed you...unfortunately.
Again I disagree.

GBU,

Gavin


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/18/2019 4:31 am

    Quoting shuel2002:
    Here I thought you were just having a slow day when I read your last post.
LOL!


GavinLS2 64M
1495 posts
4/18/2019 4:33 am

    Quoting DitsyGal2019:
    I don't 'hate' anyone....there are some I dislike, some I just totally ignore.....I have chatted for over 10 years and have found that there will always be someone who is going to insult you, disagree with you, even iggy you (oh my!!)....But there must be something here that keeps bringing us back......Maybe it's Gavin's cole slaw
LOL! I'm sure it's the cole slaw!

GBU,
Gavin


Abelle2 78F
29121 posts
4/18/2019 6:09 pm

Gavin, tell me how you make your cole slaw. I am always asked to bring mine to meals. Maybe a zillion different varieties of it ...……..