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J E A L O U S Y IS .........!! How far does it affect you? Jealousy is a resentment of a person against a rival, against someone enjoying success or advantage, who is liked or loved, valued and regarded highly, admired and respected etc., A mental uneasiness from suspicion, a fear and hostile toward a rival, as in love or aims, a jealous feeling, disposition, state, or mood. An unhappy or angry feeling caused by the belief that someone you love likes or is liked by someone else. The most correct definition would be the feeling of being threatened by a rival in a romantic relationship or losing something of value to another person which happens to be yours already. Jealousy becomes problematic. It is a serious issue that plagues many relationships, turning even the strongest. Jealousy root cause is a Lack of self confidence: The main cause for feelings of jealousy are your doubts Jealousy can be a powerful and destructive force in relationships. Though a little jealousy in a romantic relationship is undoubtedly natural. A jealous man who feels insecure in his romantic relationships, for example, does not feel confident that he is good and valuable enough to keep another person interested in him over time.It's an obsessive-compulsive disorder, jealousy actually stems from an overall paranoid approach to many things in life. Men and women with a paranoid personality style are often blamer, assigning blame to others as opposed to looking inward and accepting accountability for their own flaws or mistakes. Too often, they get jealous and grasp onto a strong belief that their partner is cheating—and no amount of evidence can convince them otherwise. Understand that the root of this type of behavior is: insecurity, doubts, obsessiveness, exaggeration or paranoia. These can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy by creating actual distance between ourselves and our partners, pushing them further away from us, perhaps ultimately into another person's arms. Jealousy is usually a by-product of insecurity and low self-worth. You may have fears of being abandoned or rejected by someone close to you. Or, you could be pouring your whole identity into just one obsession or passion, so that when it doesn't go your way, the loss of control or unwanted outcome really shakes your confidence. It's a destructive way by making accusations, giving someone the rough treatment or dropping sarcastic hints. Jealousy engenders Envy, which is hatred/bitterness towards another person for having an advantage that YOU don't ... It's a feeling or showing an envious resentment at someone or their achievement in any way. Don't let jealousy affect your mind, your spirit and your life, the stronger it gets, the worst and miserable you'll feel. Thank you for your read and views. Sincerely, Lisa.            |
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Very timely! I wrote blogs about our travels, they have something to say, then I wrote about Perfumes they said I am bragging. So what will you call these people, JEALOUS ENVIOUS! Everyone has their own personality! Very Sad! Your blog explain all! Thank you. Blessed Easter to you Beth! Betty "The only way to have a friend is to be one."
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Betty dear, hello, How glad I am reading you on this blog of mine. A blog I've written in general, with all its meaningful aspects. After what I had myself experienced and survived exteriorly. I've decided accordingly, to post a blog on Jealousy. I do not mingle, interfere or comment on others arguments and opinion on anyone else on blog land, Betty, I am friendly with everyone on here. Thank you for your visit and comments Betty, I wish you and your family A Happy Easter too. Enjoy your day, with my warm regards. Lisa.
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Puzzles hi dear, Your visit and nice comments are well noted on my above blog and for which I thank you very much, Sandy. Thank you also for your appreciation too. Am glad for it and thanks again. My kind regards to you. Have a nice day. Lisa.
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Betty dear, hello, How glad I am reading you on this blog of mine. A blog I've written in general, with all its meaningful aspects. After what I had myself experienced and survived exteriorly. I've decided accordingly, to post a blog on Jealousy. I do not mingle, interfere or comment on others arguments and opinion on anyone else on blog land, Betty, I am friendly with everyone on here. Thank you for your visit and comments Betty, I wish you and your family A Happy Easter too. Enjoy your day, with my warm regards. Lisa. Enjoy the holidays. Best regards, Betty "The only way to have a friend is to be one."
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Betty hi again dear, I do understand you very well, Betty and am sorry for any of your past issues. Please, Betty, we can just forgive and let pass everything and remain friendly with everyone as well. Thank you again for coming back, my dear friend, I wish you all my best. Lisa.
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Betty hi again dear, I do understand you very well, Betty and am sorry for any of your past issues. Please, Betty, we can just forgive and let pass everything and remain friendly with everyone as well. Thank you again for coming back, my dear friend, I wish you all my best. Lisa.  "The only way to have a friend is to be one."
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Betty, my dear friend, How kind of you, I do appreciate your feelings. It's reciprocal from my side as well. Thanks from all my heart, Betty. Lisa. 
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3/23/2016 10:34 am |
Good thoughts. It is hard to sort out jealousy from hurt. I sort of see hurt as feeling deficient and defeated, perhaps even depressed by the feeling. Jealousy is the same feeling but expressed with anger and trying to hurt back. Spiritwoman ^i^
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3/23/2016 10:43 am |
Hi Lisa: It's fairly obvious that a lot of the insults in this group stem from envy but nothing much we can do about that. Years ago I was engaged to an opera singer and I experienced such a case of jealousy you cannot believe. It felt like every woman was openly flirting with him and trying to take him away from me. The more well known he became, the more the women would be after him, and the more insecure I became.
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Mary Ann dear, hi, Your visit and your appreciation of my above blog, are very well pleasing my dear Mary Ann. Thank you so much for all. am glad reading from you always. Enjoy a wonderful day dear. With my warm regards, Lisa.
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Spiritwoman dear Lady, hello, I appreciate so much your visit and your kind input on this blog of mine. You are correct in your above statement, there are those who cannot bear their jealousy and therefore apply their anger on one or another. This sort of jealousy becomes like a sickness in them. It won't affect the others but themselves. The more they exerce the jealousy, the more it affect them, the more they become angry, it affects them mentally and physically too. This is what one has to understand. Thank you so much Spirit and have a nice day. My best wishes to you. Lisa.
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Bijou, my dear friend, hello, I understand your related case very well, it does happen many times for many people too. Specially when either partner is appreciated, or famous and well off. The jealousy gnaws the inner feelings of the other, to a point where it makes yourself unsecured and vulnerable. Their jealousy makes them to insults you, accuse you, doubt you, belittle you and challenge you , to satisfy their fury. All this just brings pains, disgust and provoke unnecessary turmoil in one's life. I really feel for you, my dear friend. I hope you have succeeded in taking back your fiance from all of them, though I know it might have been difficult in such situation. Plz, let me know. Thanks again my dear Bijou. Have a nice day, with my warm regards. Lisa.
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Very good blog. Lisa, thanks for the interesting read
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Maudie, my charming friend, hello, Thank you so much for your appreciation, Maudie, I intended to post this meaningful blog, since a while ago, I had drafted it but I had other blogs to post previously too. Am glad it has pleased as well as all the visitors on here. I wrote this blog on the above topic, upon to my past external experience Maudie. Am so happy that it has pleased my readers. Thanks again for your visit and your nice comments, my dear friend. I wish you a very pleasant day. With my warm regards. Lisa.
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Tom hi, I was eager to read your comments on here!!. I don't know who that may be. But I had this blog drafted since some days now, I had other blogs to post ahead. So, I've decided to post this one today. I wonder if anyone would be that jealous or angry that I've posted on this topic AHEAD but it was due. So, I won't be sorry if anyone else didn't post ahead of mine!!. Do you have an idea who that is or may be??. Thanks for your kind visit and you puzzled thought, Tom. It really made me laughed. Enjoy your day. Lisa. : 
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Just4AFewAgn, hi, You are warmly welcome on my blog, it's the first time I read from you on here, thank you for your visit and your nice comments. Am glad meeting you on my blog as well. Hope to read from you again in the future. I wish you a fine day, Just. Lisa. 
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Fossil Sir, hi, As usual am so glad reading you again on my blog. Your noticeable above comments are correct but as you may have also noticed, I do not interfere in others remarks on another, just to avoid any misunderstanding from my side. What I've posted above, is my own general experiences externally about such type of jealousy which I have survived. I wanted to describe all or most of the aspects of Jealousy which one or several of us may have passed through. You are quite right in your above statement. I had drafted this blog since a while ago but I had a few blogs ready to post, so I've posted them ahead of this one. Thank you so much for your appreciation Fossil. When jealousy becomes as the breath of a person, then it is obviously a disease affecting the person eventually. Jealousy if not controlled, it causes lots of turmoil and disgust too. Thank you again Fossil. I wish you and your wife, a pleasant day. With my kind regards, Lisa.
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Earthytaurus, my kind Lady, hi, How great reading your meaningful comments here on this blog special blog of mine. Thank you so much for your kind visit and your appreciation too. Am so happy that this blog has pleased so many of you on here. You are so correct in your input on here, I wish all and each one concerned would consider these facts and try to ease such obvious feelings which destroy every good thing in life. Thanks again my dear Lady, enjoy a wonder day. Kind regards, Lisa.
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Ah! Tom, re-hi, I understand what you mean above. You have reminded me of that one too. Wonderful!! and thanks again for your coming back with your certainty. Delighted reading from you again. Enjoy a wished and pleasant day. Keep smiling too, better than frowning!! And let me join you in laughing as well. Kind regards. Lisa. 
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Tom, lolol !! Your answer to Just, has really stunned me!!, though I understand what you exactly meant above. Great philosopher!!  It keeps me smiling eventually. Lisa.
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Just4AFew, re-hi, Glad reading your response to Ranger ( The great Philosopher). At times Ranger can be a joker and at times he really means what he says and thinks. We just have to understand him. He is the real Inspector Gadget on here!!. Or may we call him "Detector Colombo"?? . It's one's choice.Have a nice day Just4. Lisa.
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Leaf, hi, or gm to you, How glad I am reading you again on my blog. Thank you so much for your quite right input and correct analysis on this subject. But Leaf, there are those who DO NOT realize the dreadful consequences of JEALOUSY. They think everything is permissible for them, whatever related aspects emerge from their mind, whatever fury and hurtful their utterances may be and.... so forth. For sure it destroys, be it the friendship, the relationship or the partnership and even the marriages. It really causes much and even more damages to the other one. In any circumstance, one should know how to manage his TONGUE. It doesn't matter what goes in the mouth but what comes out from it !!. One should THINK before ACTING and not ACT and THINK later!!. Thank you again Leaf, you are so sensible and correct in your above expressions. I wish you and all of yours, A VERY HAPPY EASTER. ENJOY THIS FESTIVE DAY. Kind regards, Lisa.
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