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Tanzanite422 73F
639 posts
5/22/2019 10:44 am


Patti's Blog on relationships deteriorating, prompted a few thoughts.

If you feel that you must conform and be anything other than your authentic self~~You're not in a relationship, you're in a situation.

Observing, I have to wonder how any relationship survives past "Hello" ....People, generally, don't seem to like, much less respect, each other any more.

Times have changed. People don't really want the responsibility of commitment.

So many generalities yet, really, it's unique to any two people.

Bonnie Raitt sang it best:

" I can't make you love me if you don't...
You can't make your heart feel something it won't."


MrsJoe 71F
10811 posts
5/22/2019 4:11 pm

Too many blogs seem to deteriorate, even those on good subject matter like that one. It seems that some folks don't want to discuss and offer their own views, they only want to attack others for their comments and views.

Spring is here, it's beautiful outside. But let's sit on the computer and insult each other!

Tanzanite422 replies on 5/22/2019 5:36 pm:

MrsJoe...Exactly..That's why I made my comments here, giving Patti credit for introducing this thought provoking topic so eloquently.

It's rude and serves no purpose for those that hijack a blog except to draw attention to themselves which is their purpose in doing so.


Abelle2 78F
29035 posts
5/22/2019 2:03 pm

Somehow Hawkslayer and I were lucky to have formed our relationship thru SFF. It ended with us marrying and very glad we did

We wish others this lucky also!

Tanzanite422 replies on 5/22/2019 2:55 pm:

MsAbelle, Dwight and I did too and I think one thing that helped build a good foundation was building it OFF SITE !!!


Pattistuff46 72F  
247 posts
5/22/2019 1:59 pm

I agree, and I'm going to substitute the word "situation" for "relationship" when referring to such matters from now on. I have lots of friends who are in "Situations" right now. Looking at it differently makes me wonder why we put ourselves through so much agony over a person that is not suited for us. Whether it be a relationship or a friendship, if two people are not suited, they need to step back and assess the situation, Thanks, Patti

Tanzanite422 replies on 5/22/2019 3:34 pm:

Oh Patti, there is nothing sweeter than a relationship thats mutually satisfying.

Anything less than both partners caring and being committed to each other is shaky from the start, quickly becoming a 'situation'...

Thanks for sharing your insight, we seem to be on the same page


Rocketship 75F
15377 posts
5/22/2019 1:17 pm

Very true~~~ ^5 !!

Tanzanite422 replies on 5/22/2019 3:55 pm:


Tanzanite422 73F
345 posts
5/22/2019 10:46 am