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MrsJoe 76F
17309 posts
5/10/2019 7:49 pm

No, I wasn't wanting a partner when I was single. I was happy, content, self sufficient, and leading a busy active life. But there was one thing I kind of wanted...... a friend to whom I could talk and go to places with me when my family wasn't available.
I found that friend when I met Joe, 15 years ago.
Now, about that "wishful thinking of the silly 'romantic love'........ who says we are losing all that? I think I had as much of that as when I met my first husband when I was 16! And maybe, being more mature, it was even better.
I've seen really older couples meet and fall in love, and it is still that 'romantic love'.... I don't think we ever get to old to enjoy those emotions.


Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.


Abelle2 83F
31211 posts
5/11/2019 5:27 am

Hawkslayer and I met on Senior Friend Finder and tomorrow we celebrate our 3rd anniversary although we have been together since 2011.

My longtime galfriend saw I had a computer and told me I needed to join a chat site. I thought she was crazy in the head. She went ahead and signed me up. I don't remember what it was but eventually SFF invited me.

Thank you Pat! I still miss you and you have been gone many years.


Hawkslayer 88M
13299 posts
5/11/2019 7:07 am

    Quoting Abelle2:
    Hawkslayer and I met on Senior Friend Finder and tomorrow we celebrate our 3rd anniversary although we have been together since 2011.

    My longtime galfriend saw I had a computer and told me I needed to join a chat site. I thought she was crazy in the head. She went ahead and signed me up. I don't remember what it was but eventually SFF invited me.

    Thank you Pat! I still miss you and you have been gone many years.
Slight adjustment my Dear, we have been together since December 19th 2007. They have been wonderful years too!

It only takes a drop of ink to make a million people think. There are many stories.


Seattlechick8 67F

5/11/2019 7:55 am

I’ve Been With Daniel 9 Yrs June 27th
We Will Never Marry Because It’s Never Been Something
I’ve Wanted
Dosent Negate The Comittmenrt We Have
Life Partners


Rentier2 79M
950 posts
5/11/2019 8:44 am

I certainly do.


Archer62 83F
7051 posts
5/11/2019 9:49 am

I WOULDN'T MIND HAVING A LIVE-OUT FRIEND. PERMANENT LIVE-IN, NO WAY.


WellKnownAuthor 61M
722 posts
5/11/2019 12:16 pm

    Quoting  :

I can certainly do that but eating mashed potato's three times a day forever would have me looking like

SPUD McKENSIE!!!!!


sparkleflit 76F
10271 posts
5/11/2019 8:45 pm

I'm divided on the subject.....part of me would like a romantic connection, but I find that the men I have that with want more than I do...........I really glory in my independence and men invariably try to insinuate themselves into the fabric of my life......They keep texting, wanting to know what I'm up to, if I want to get together, when we can get together, what I want to do, where I want to go........It makes me want to scream.......In my experience it's always all or nothing......I definitely don't want to live with someone........I would like a man-friend and lover.....but I can't seem to find a man who wants the same degree of togetherness as I do......and at this stage of my life, I'm not very motivated.

I had a very strong connection with a man this Winter. Too strong for comfort.....I was shocked that I could still feel such a strong attraction.......The first time I met him, he smiled at me with this recognition......or familiarity, like a long lost friend and came over and sat with me and talked as if he knew me. I saw him once a week for months and I felt like I was being pulled helplessly into his vortex......I didn't like it and pulled away.....It took several meetings before I could convince him that I was attracted but I was saying no. He tried to convince me I should say yes, but I was determined and felt very relieved when he accepted my no........I felt like I had successfully avoided a crisis.


sparkleflit 76F
10271 posts
5/13/2019 12:36 pm

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o one here knows me, least of all you......To assume that you know someone who your only contact with is a site like this,is presumptuous to the point of foolishness.

I said at the beginning that I was divided.....Have you never been conflicted ?

And when I said I felt as if I had averted a crisis, in no way did I infer that the man I was attracted to was to blame for my feelings. Your comment apparently comes from a place of defensiveness.........As if I'm saying that feeling conflicted about having a partner is somehow insulting the man in my example and all men in general.

My comment was about my own thoughts and feelings. The man is a wonderful person and I'm attracted to him, but there are aspects of a relationship that I don't want in my life at this stage......He wants a different kind of relationship than I do.......He wants constant togetherness........I don't. I've always needed a lot of solitude.....alone-time, which I have had to forego in other times in my life. Now that I have it, I treasure it.

For those who feel that a partner is a primary need and find someone who they want to spend most of their time with , which is often what happens with retirees, I'm happy for them and that's their choice.

The initial romantic attraction can be strong even at our age, but we still need to weigh the pros and cons. If the person you are attracted to has the same needs as you.......full steam ahead.....but if the person's needs and wants clearly conflict with mine, well, unlike in my youth, I now have the wisdom and strength to choose not to get emotionally entangled with a person whose needs don't mesh with mine........


Secondwave1 68M

5/19/2019 4:55 pm

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And bijou, hopefully doesn't snore at night!

From my perspective, being smitten is not a choice.
It's not rational, but once mutual attraction has lit the fires the roller coaster ride is unstoppable. And hopefully for all involved, very rewarding.