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rainbow2016 66F
26 posts
5/10/2019 6:59 pm
If You Are Single, Do You Still Want A Partner ?

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rainbow2016 66F
38 posts
5/10/2019 7:01 pm

The attraction among younger people is mostly (not all) based on physical, sexual, and the wishful thinking of the silly ‘romantic love’. Agree ? ….Now we are losing all that as you could feel.…. Do you still want a partner ?

Of course, it’s still nice to have friends if everything goes nice and rosy. But I am talking about having a mindset to want a partner as something you want to accomplish before you die.


MrsJoe 71F
10650 posts
5/10/2019 7:49 pm

No, I wasn't wanting a partner when I was single. I was happy, content, self sufficient, and leading a busy active life. But there was one thing I kind of wanted...... a friend to whom I could talk and go to places with me when my family wasn't available.
I found that friend when I met Joe, 15 years ago.
Now, about that "wishful thinking of the silly 'romantic love'........ who says we are losing all that? I think I had as much of that as when I met my first husband when I was 16! And maybe, being more mature, it was even better.
I've seen really older couples meet and fall in love, and it is still that 'romantic love'.... I don't think we ever get to old to enjoy those emotions.


Spring is here, it's beautiful outside. But let's sit on the computer and insult each other!


Abelle2 78F
28990 posts
5/11/2019 5:27 am

Hawkslayer and I met on Senior Friend Finder and tomorrow we celebrate our 3rd anniversary although we have been together since 2011.

My longtime galfriend saw I had a computer and told me I needed to join a chat site. I thought she was crazy in the head. She went ahead and signed me up. I don't remember what it was but eventually SFF invited me.

Thank you Pat! I still miss you and you have been gone many years.


Hawkslayer 83M
11305 posts
5/11/2019 7:07 am

    Quoting Abelle2:
    Hawkslayer and I met on Senior Friend Finder and tomorrow we celebrate our 3rd anniversary although we have been together since 2011.

    My longtime galfriend saw I had a computer and told me I needed to join a chat site. I thought she was crazy in the head. She went ahead and signed me up. I don't remember what it was but eventually SFF invited me.

    Thank you Pat! I still miss you and you have been gone many years.
Slight adjustment my Dear, we have been together since December 19th 2007. They have been wonderful years too!

It only takes a drop of ink to make a million people think. There are many stories.


Seattlechick8 62F
815 posts
5/11/2019 7:55 am

I’ve Been With Daniel 9 Yrs June 27th
We Will Never Marry Because It’s Never Been Something
I’ve Wanted
Dosent Negate The Comittmenrt We Have
Life Partners


Rentier2 74M
364 posts
5/11/2019 8:44 am

I certainly do.


Archer62 78F
4305 posts
5/11/2019 9:49 am

I WOULDN'T MIND HAVING A LIVE-OUT FRIEND. PERMANENT LIVE-IN, NO WAY.


Misguided1 76M
112 posts
5/11/2019 9:51 am

Long before Hank and Bob became secret cruising partners in life boat 69,, Tonto and the Lone Ranger were bonded partners.

Lets not forget Lucie and Desi and Ralph and Alice Kramden too!

Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers, Paul Simon and Art Garfunkel

Anne Murray singing tor her unknown last dance waltz Partner!

That famous WWW2 Uncle Sam Wants You as a Partner poster!

Madonna and Sean Penn for three weeks and also Princess Di and big ears!

Trump and any Mirror in the entire world

Sonny and Cher!

Bill and Hillary before Monica in the oval office taking dictation for our nation!

Proctor and Gamble!

Donald and Daisy Duck, Porky Pig and Petunia, the Roadrunner and the Coyote.

JFK and Jackie before Marilyn!

1939 Germany and Russia non aggression pact!

Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis!

Roseanne Barrand Tom Arnold!

Sleeping Beauty and the Handsome Prince!

Roy Rogers and Dale Evans!

Matches made in Heaven but most ending up in pure Hell!

With all marriages in America todayending in 52% Divorce rates, don't be that dashing hare with breakneck speed but rather be that slow and sure tortoise if seeking a partner.


bijou649 69F
393 posts
5/11/2019 11:14 am

All I want is someone who eats quietly. lol


rainbow2016 66F
38 posts
5/11/2019 12:06 pm

it’s Ok to desire,
but it should come from joyous energy, spirit and a realistic way of dealing with
the situation.
Not based on fantasy or an impulse.
It’s even Ok to fantasize, as long as you make it enjoyable.
And there’s a difference between being impulsive and spontaneous.


WellKnownAuthor 76M
439 posts
5/11/2019 12:16 pm

    Quoting bijou649:
    All I want is someone who eats quietly. lol
I can certainly do that but eating mashed potato's three times a day forever would have me looking like

SPUD McKENSIE!!!!!


sparkleflit 71F
4318 posts
5/11/2019 8:45 pm

I'm divided on the subject.....part of me would like a romantic connection, but I find that the men I have that with want more than I do...........I really glory in my independence and men invariably try to insinuate themselves into the fabric of my life......They keep texting, wanting to know what I'm up to, if I want to get together, when we can get together, what I want to do, where I want to go........It makes me want to scream.......In my experience it's always all or nothing......I definitely don't want to live with someone........I would like a man-friend and lover.....but I can't seem to find a man who wants the same degree of togetherness as I do......and at this stage of my life, I'm not very motivated.

I had a very strong connection with a man this Winter. Too strong for comfort.....I was shocked that I could still feel such a strong attraction.......The first time I met him, he smiled at me with this recognition......or familiarity, like a long lost friend and came over and sat with me and talked as if he knew me. I saw him once a week for months and I felt like I was being pulled helplessly into his vortex......I didn't like it and pulled away.....It took several meetings before I could convince him that I was attracted but I was saying no. He tried to convince me I should say yes, but I was determined and felt very relieved when he accepted my no........I felt like I had successfully avoided a crisis.


rainbow2016 replies on 5/11/2019 10:30 pm:
Thank you for your interesting story.
"Too strong for comfort....I was being pulled helplessly into his vortex...."
You got me all excited.
If you put your story in more details in your blog I would read it faithfully.

Misguided1 76M
112 posts
5/11/2019 10:53 pm

    Quoting sparkleflit:
    I'm divided on the subject.....part of me would like a romantic connection, but I find that the men I have that with want more than I do...........I really glory in my independence and men invariably try to insinuate themselves into the fabric of my life......They keep texting, wanting to know what I'm up to, if I want to get together, when we can get together, what I want to do, where I want to go........It makes me want to scream.......In my experience it's always all or nothing......I definitely don't want to live with someone........I would like a man-friend and lover.....but I can't seem to find a man who wants the same degree of togetherness as I do......and at this stage of my life, I'm not very motivated.

    I had a very strong connection with a man this Winter. Too strong for comfort.....I was shocked that I could still feel such a strong attraction.......The first time I met him, he smiled at me with this recognition......or familiarity, like a long lost friend and came over and sat with me and talked as if he knew me. I saw him once a week for months and I felt like I was being pulled helplessly into his vortex......I didn't like it and pulled away.....It took several meetings before I could convince him that I was attracted but I was saying no. He tried to convince me I should say yes, but I was determined and felt very relieved when he accepted my no........I felt like I had successfully avoided a crisis.
WOW TALK ABOUT DOUBLE TALK AND SIBIL..... BELOW IS ALL FROM HER COMMENTS ABOVE.. BACK AND FORTH MORE THAN TWO PING PONG PLAYING OCTOPUS EACH HOLDING 8 PADDLES.........READ ON GARTH!!

No sparkle! Everyone in there that knows you all think he more than successfully avoided the crisis and certainly not you!

I had a very strong connection with a man this Winter---------->>.I felt like I had successfully avoided a crisis.

I saw him once a week for months--------.>I didn't like it and pulled away.-

.I would like a man-friend and lover.-------> and at this stage of my life, I'm not very motivated.

I'm divided on the subject.---->..I would like a man-friend and lover..


rainbow2016 replies on 5/12/2019 10:55 am:
Just curious.
why did you name yourself Misguided ?

rainbow2016 66F
38 posts
5/12/2019 10:44 am

Thank you all for your comments.

Best wishes to everybody


sparkleflit 71F
4318 posts
5/13/2019 12:36 pm

    Quoting Misguided1:
    WOW TALK ABOUT DOUBLE TALK AND SIBIL..... BELOW IS ALL FROM HER COMMENTS ABOVE.. BACK AND FORTH MORE THAN TWO PING PONG PLAYING OCTOPUS EACH HOLDING 8 PADDLES.........READ ON GARTH!!

    No sparkle! Everyone in there that knows you all think he more than successfully avoided the crisis and certainly not you!

    I had a very strong connection with a man this Winter---------->>.I felt like I had successfully avoided a crisis.

    I saw him once a week for months--------.>I didn't like it and pulled away.-

    .I would like a man-friend and lover.-------> and at this stage of my life, I'm not very motivated.

    I'm divided on the subject.---->..I would like a man-friend and lover..

o one here knows me, least of all you......To assume that you know someone who your only contact with is a site like this,is presumptuous to the point of foolishness.

I said at the beginning that I was divided.....Have you never been conflicted ?

And when I said I felt as if I had averted a crisis, in no way did I infer that the man I was attracted to was to blame for my feelings. Your comment apparently comes from a place of defensiveness.........As if I'm saying that feeling conflicted about having a partner is somehow insulting the man in my example and all men in general.

My comment was about my own thoughts and feelings. The man is a wonderful person and I'm attracted to him, but there are aspects of a relationship that I don't want in my life at this stage......He wants a different kind of relationship than I do.......He wants constant togetherness........I don't. I've always needed a lot of solitude.....alone-time, which I have had to forego in other times in my life. Now that I have it, I treasure it.

For those who feel that a partner is a primary need and find someone who they want to spend most of their time with , which is often what happens with retirees, I'm happy for them and that's their choice.

The initial romantic attraction can be strong even at our age, but we still need to weigh the pros and cons. If the person you are attracted to has the same needs as you.......full steam ahead.....but if the person's needs and wants clearly conflict with mine, well, unlike in my youth, I now have the wisdom and strength to choose not to get emotionally entangled with a person whose needs don't mesh with mine........


Secondwave1 63M
54 posts
5/19/2019 4:55 pm

    Quoting bijou649:
    All I want is someone who eats quietly. lol
And bijou, hopefully doesn't snore at night!

From my perspective, being smitten is not a choice.
It's not rational, but once mutual attraction has lit the fires the roller coaster ride is unstoppable. And hopefully for all involved, very rewarding.