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brightsmile003B 84F
585 posts
10/15/2017 8:36 am
Viewing or Hotlisting


My Friend Tanzanite.....wrote a great blog about something that has bothered me for a while. When I first joined this site about 12 years ago and would see that some men had viewed my profile I would get all "giddy and expect to be contacted soon" well many times it did not happen and I never thought to check the (people I had viewed )

quoting Tanzanite here;;;;;;;"
Anyone believing that every man or woman that breezes through the chat room everyday viewing your profile is deluding their self~~~

We expect honesty and respect and we get 'deceit' from the internet...I've heard men and women making comments that they are being 'viewed' by someone and that 'someone' must be interested in them~~~

Seriously, folks, don't let your ego or needs be played by the games of this site~~

If you see me" peeking" at you please do not be flattered or insulted......cause it just ain't so".........................Thanks tanz.

If you are a man and see that I have hotlisted you then that is true I did that......lol...well so far I think the hotlisted list is correct.........lol...


Rocketship 80F
18566 posts
10/15/2017 8:58 am

Yes, I've found this an issue with many 'social' sites.

Most expect you to become a paying member in order to see who favours you or to read messages from other folks.

Fortunately, SFF allows more privileges to non-paying members than most.


MrsJoe 76F
17383 posts
10/15/2017 9:42 am

If I put someone on my hotlist, it is to keep track of when they were last logged on, so I can be sure when I am concerned that I haven't seen them post anything for awhile.

Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.


brightsmile003B 84F

10/15/2017 12:14 pm

    Quoting Rocketship:
    Yes, I've found this an issue with many 'social' sites.

    Most expect you to become a paying member in order to see who favours you or to read messages from other folks.

    Fortunately, SFF allows more privileges to non-paying members than most.

Hi Rocketship.......I agree with you that we do have more privileges than any other site for nonpaying members. I like SFF better than other sites that I have been on .


brightsmile003B 84F

10/15/2017 12:16 pm

    Quoting MrsJoe:
    If I put someone on my hotlist, it is to keep track of when they were last logged on, so I can be sure when I am concerned that I haven't seen them post anything for awhile.
Hello Mrsjoe......I just put men on my hotlist that I like and who I think might want to start a relationship with me.


Abelle2 83F
31227 posts
10/15/2017 4:37 pm

I have never hot listed anyone, not even Alfie. Maybe I should and shock him one day.


brightsmile003B 84F

10/15/2017 6:36 pm

    Quoting Abelle2:
    I have never hot listed anyone, not even Alfie. Maybe I should and shock him one day.
Hello Abelle.............yep I think you should "hotlist" him and see what he thinks about it.


looklook 84M
3925 posts
10/17/2017 12:55 am

Who are those in your Hot List, Bright?


brightsmile003B 84F

10/17/2017 6:09 am

    Quoting looklook:
    Who are those in your Hot List, Bright?
Hi Looklook.....its a secret look.....lol