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DitsyGal2018 66F
56 posts
5/28/2019 7:36 am
To the women at SFF.....



DitsyGal2018 66F

5/28/2019 7:37 am

This just seems so appropriate.........


Abelle2 78F
29078 posts
5/28/2019 8:27 am

How true!


Tanzanite422 73F
378 posts
5/28/2019 9:01 am

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Speaking personally,
I am trustworthy
I have plenty of courage but can not speak through a closed door.

The second paragraph is a crock...No woman has a tribe of women behind them.

It's not my job to lift anyone other than myself .

I am supportive to people, anyone, who deserves and appreciates it enough to listen.

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bijou649 70F
518 posts
5/28/2019 9:08 am

I've never had an easy time with women. Most of them seem to talk a lot but never listen, many are envious and don't wish other women well, and the rest are obsessed with finding a man.


freedomlady3 61F
16 posts
5/28/2019 9:22 am

agrees with bijou. women need to face other women face to face in order to see the truth in their eyes. otherwise forget it


MrsJoe 72F
10910 posts
5/28/2019 9:38 am

I think we need to be a PERSON that others can trust, and be able to tell others when we are hurt, ect. But that takes a deep level of friendship to do because usually others get mad and feel attacked by such statement.
And, I'm sorry but I do not agree with that second paragraph at all. Many successful women have gotten there by hard work, and others often resent their success, so yes they may have a very few close friends behind them, but not a tribe of them.
The premise of this is good..... we SHOULD lift others up, but not just our gender.


If you don't expect anything from anybody......You won't be disappointed.


maggie052 67F
71 posts
5/28/2019 10:14 am

I don’t say anything in chat I wouldn’t say no matter who is in the room . I am well aware people are lurking or coming into room to scroll back .

“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, – Winston Churchill


Seattlechick8 62F
884 posts
5/28/2019 11:40 am

I Have My “Tribe” Who Stand By Me No Matter What
Most I’ve Known Over 35 Yrs


earthytaurus3 79F
39778 posts
5/28/2019 11:41 am

    Quoting bijou649:
    I've never had an easy time with women. Most of them seem to talk a lot but never listen, many are envious and don't wish other women well, and the rest are obsessed with finding a man.
This is pretty much the way I see it, too.


DitsyGal2018 66F

5/28/2019 12:07 pm

I believe that the gist of this was that women need to lift other women up, and not talk behind their backs, or do things to hurt them intentionally.....Maybe the word "tribe" isn't the right word,,,but hey, I didn't write it LOL....It IS good to have friends who stand by you.....


earthytaurus3 79F
39778 posts
5/29/2019 4:43 pm

    Quoting  :

Me. too, Butter. I don't seek anyone else's approval FIRST.


DitsyGal2018 66F

5/30/2019 2:56 am

This isn't about getting anyone's 'approval'.....it's about tearing other women down, trying to shame them, instead of building them up,,,encouraging them......We all need encouragement from time to time......especially when we're going thru tough times.......You can be yourself, just be a 'kinder' self....


earthytaurus3 79F
39778 posts
5/30/2019 4:43 am

    Quoting DitsyGal2018:
    This isn't about getting anyone's 'approval'.....it's about tearing other women down, trying to shame them, instead of building them up,,,encouraging them......We all need encouragement from time to time......especially when we're going thru tough times.......You can be yourself, just be a 'kinder' self....
Yes, it is … it's about YOUR approval. I can feel it in the scolding you see fit to deliver.


DitsyGal2018 replies on 5/30/2019 8:26 am:
Not scolding anybody.....would just like ppl to get along.....

earthytaurus3 79F
39778 posts
5/30/2019 3:14 pm

    Quoting earthytaurus3:
    Yes, it is … it's about YOUR approval. I can feel it in the scolding you see fit to deliver.
I'm not so sure that it's reasonable to expect that everyone is going to get along. I think that's a pipe dream. There are quite a few women here on the site that I can relate to and appreciate because we have thoughts in common … but it's very definitely not ALL. Some few, I find it best to ignore … the bossy ones that actually believe they can teach old dogs new tricks. I am one not needy of NUMBERS, and I'm not here to win a popularity contest.

Your quote states that women should have the courage to tell other women n when they have ' offended, hurt or disappointed you' . I am as direct as anyone I know in communicating with some very few here that I have found offensive. It doesn't work. It just gets their hackles up and they're automatically in defense mode. IF we can truly respect each other, I should have the liberty to speak my piece and not be attacked with a whole lot of attitude and/or religious sanctimony, even. I'm far too old for the 'games people play,' and I'm not an ugly person when people treat me respectfully. What goes around, comes around.


earthytaurus3 79F
39778 posts
5/30/2019 3:16 pm

I'm telling it straight … I will await to see how it flies.


marian2019 81F
36 posts
6/1/2019 11:07 am

Just be honest and be yourself....you need not be anything else.