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Secondwave1 68M
101 posts
4/28/2019 11:10 am
Flirting!


Well that was a disappointment. Someone flirted with me. I tried to flirt back but much to my chagrin, it was not to be. I could not even return the gesture. So sad. LOL I am still learning the limits of being a free member.

I enjoy messaging back and forth to learn about each other and the blog seems to be the only way to accomplish this delightful waste of time. It's open for anyone to read and 's ok since I have nothing provocative or intimate to say here.

The question of becoming a paid member mostly has to do with logistics. Lots of fun people to exchange thoughts with in the blogs, but everyone is so far away. Little opportunity to actually meet people in real life. Not even talking as a romantic liaison, just to get together to share a meal and share stories. So for now, I'll enjoy the distant company of the dreamers and story tellers!

Secondwave1 68M

4/28/2019 11:11 am

Always interested in the thoughts of others!


Rocketship 79F
18529 posts
4/28/2019 1:05 pm

I do agree that distance makes actually meeting folks difficult, whether for friendship or a relationship.

This site does allow non paying members more than most other social sites.... blogging, chat room, groups.

I used to be a paying member for many years, but found there wasn't, for me, an advantage to continuing to pay. I pass some pleasant time in the chat room, and read the blogs. I have been to a number of gatherings, which are great fun.


Secondwave1 68M

4/28/2019 2:58 pm

Thanks for all your thoughts. I agree that this site does have its pluses with the blogs. Haven't ventured into the chat rooms because most of what I've seen from other sites is ... aaaa entered room.... aaaa left room! LOL


sparkleflit 76F
10271 posts
4/28/2019 3:27 pm

That was my impression when I first became a member. The chat-room was very busy, mostly with people saying hello or good-bye....or announcing that they were going to let the cat in/out, make a cup of coffee, go to the loo, etc......just really mundane things......so boring......


MrsJoe 76F
17306 posts
4/28/2019 3:41 pm

When I first joined, I was in the chat rooms a lot. Yes, a lot of "hellos" and "goodbyes", some flirting and teasing, but there were also interesting conversations about relationships, family issues, and just discussing the decisions we have to make these days in our senior years.
There was also a place to go to "private chat" and exchange more contact information. The chat room is where I Joe.
We attended some luncheon meetings with SFF folks up near Chicago, and also met a couple of SFF folks when we traveled in their area. It was a few years before we attended one of the bashes, which is a bigger gathering of a few days, and usually has a theme, decorations, costume party, games, and time to get to know other members. A lot of friendships have grown out of those bashes.
For someone who is serious about meeting friends in SFF near their area, I would suggest first researching to make sure there are some, and then become a paying member for a month and contacting some of them. Might even suggest contacting members of the same gender who might know of any upcoming events. Do not include any personal contact information at first..... SFF frowns upon that behavior because that is usually what scammers do.
I did see in FB that Michianared is asking if anyone would be interested in a bash in Daytona Beach in October.


Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.


Abelle2 83F
31210 posts
4/28/2019 3:41 pm

I am not a paying member, never have been. My husband (Hawkslayer) and I met through SFF. Used to be and may still be, that if one commented on a blog, that person could comment back. Back and forth for 3 times I seem to remember, and you could then send a message and they could then give a bit of information. He wrote stories a bit at a time. I was impressed with his writing skills. He no longer writes as he used to.

How it is today I don't know. Maybe someone else knows today's rules.


frenchsalsa2 77F
7809 posts
4/28/2019 3:51 pm

Hi Secondwave... try the chatrooms (usually the Lobby) & see if you like it. Each evening is different.... try it.. nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I have also met some wonderful chatters from here when the 'bashes' (or get-togethers) were held in FL. I see where one is being planned for October.


Shartaun03 81F
6169 posts
4/28/2019 9:56 pm

I have been on SFF for more years than I care to remember. I joined way back when there was only one chat room. Sometimes in chat it got so busy it was hard to keep track of the conversations that were happening. Quite often the conversation was about who was seeing who and where they were meeting up. I haven't been in the chat room in a very long time. I spend my time on the blogs and the groups. Plus a great number from SFF are on FB as well.


Archer62 83F
7051 posts
4/29/2019 2:20 am

IF IT IS ANY CONSOLATION TO YOU, I WAS A SILVER MEMBER FOR QUITE SOME TIME BUT IT DIDN'T MAKE MUCH DIFFERENCE EXCEPT BEING ABLE TO READ PROFILES. AND WE ALL KNOW PROFILES ARE NOT ALWAYS VERY TRUTHFUL. I HAVE MET SEVERAL FOLKS FROM SFF WHEN THEY CAME TO EUROPE AND MY GENTLEMAN FRIEND IS AUSTRALIAN. AS WE ARE BOTH GETTING ON IN YEARS, DISTANCE IS NOT AN ISSUE.


Secondwave1 68M

4/29/2019 4:39 am

More great comments. Thanks.

Shartaun, there is one thing I still don't do and that is Facebook. Personal bias. LOL I am pretty active and don't like to sit still. Reading about friends lives seems crazy to me. I'm somewhat surprised I'm on this site, but I'm trying new things to meet new people. In real life, I'd rather just pick up the phone and say. what's going on! I understand for each person there are benefits, but for me I'm holding off. Viva la resistance!! LOL


Secondwave1 68M

4/29/2019 6:58 am

And Archer... nice skiis. I used to live for the slopes when I lived in California, but in Ohio not so much. Had to substitute bow hunting for skiing. Fitting in with the natives! LOL